Indeed, he was choosing to see this as his “life story.” A seemingly simple comment that is worse than you’d think.
According to mental conditioning expert Trevor Moawad (named the “Sports World's Best Brain Trainer” by Sports Illustrated) there are two things that have a major impact on our results.
The first is whether our thoughts are negative or positive and the second is whether or not we say those things out loud.
In an interview with Katie Couric, Moawad stated, “learning how to minimize negative thinking is significantly more impactful for us than trying to be more positive. Our internal thoughts don’t have nearly as much power as our external language. So when we say something out loud, it has 10 times more power than when we think it does.”
From a Go for No perspective, radically improving your emotional reaction to a no is about how you respond mentally with your self-talk. And even more important, verbally. For example, beating yourself up when you get a no by saying things like, “of course they said no. I can’t do this, I can’t get a yes to save my life. I am terrible and this no proved
it.”
You got a no?
Or just feeling frustrated, out of control, or depressed with today’s current situation?
You don’t have to pretend things aren’t as they are. (I don’t know about you but sometimes trying to “think positive” is exhausting.)
And it’s why we’ve never pretended that rejection doesn’t exist. Of course it does. Certainly you can work on reframing things. Absolutely you should work on your self-talk. Although that stuff tends to pop into your mind faster than you can stop it.
But what you say out loud… what you choose to tell as, “the story of your life” is entirely in your control.
The success secret? Zip it.
Oh and always leave about five minutes earlier than you think you should.
