How do you know if what you're asking for is unreasonable?Â
Here’s the thing: YOU don’t decide
whether your ask is unreasonable—the person you're asking does.
We all have different definitions of what’s “too much” depending on the situation. So if you're worried your ask might come off that way, try showing a little emotional intelligence (EQ) and say, "This might sound unreasonable, but here's why I'm asking…"
Then make your ask!
Think of it like negotiating for an upgrade on a flight. You might think, "There's no way they'll bump me to first class." But you never know. The airline rep might just be in the mood to grant it—or maybe the seat’s empty, and you’ll get it
just because you asked. The point is, it’s not your job to decide for them.Â
It’s your job to ask.Â
(We've gotten plenty of benefits following this rule!)
Go for No! isn’t about avoiding rejection; it’s about starting the conversation and seeing what happens.Â
Also, giving context helps keep things open, honest, and productive.
The lesson? You’ll never know what’s “too much” unless you ask!