It's an interesting phenomenon that there are two pieces of advice, each will help you be more successful.
Both have the power to change your life.
And they are complete opposites.
"Say no more often."
- You need to focus!
- Protect your time and attention.
- Stop people-pleasing and then feel frustrated.
- You overcommit and then underperform.
"Say yes more often."
- You need to create opportunities.
- Get outside your comfort zone, take a chance.
- Stop putting up barriers and being so protective.
- You’re not playing to win, you are playing not to lose.
Which approach is better?
Both are entirely valid. It’s not the strategy that is wrong or right. It’s which you choose. Which one resonates with you? Which one makes sense? Feels
right?
We look at a two-year-old and we say things like, "he's going through a phase."
You've been going through phases since you were born and you will until the end of your life. Call it a stage, call it a phase - the point is, certain strategies help us cope, grow, and change at certain phases of our life.
The key is, figure out what works for you now.
Let the other go. It might be right for you later. Should you say no or yes more often?
Say no, say yes, just say something.
